It's your girl, Nika L A Jones Hollingsworth, coming at you once again with the new and improved blog for your reading fancy! I have this fashion show coming up in the spring called “Red Hot”. So I’ve been thinking a lot about the word “hot”. This word "hot" seems to be used a lot these days and just about everyone spews it at the drop of a dime. While it’s a popular slang term used to describe something or someone that looks good or is good.... i.e.”She’s hot”! Or “those shoes are hot”! OR it can describe the opposite --- as in a “hot mess"... there are many out there...maybe too many...that think they’re HOT. Can’t tell them nothing because they know they set the world ablaze just by waking up each morning. Being hot doesn’t mean you get glammed up every day in full make-up, walk 20 miles in your best Prada heels or rock your tightest, most revealing freak em dress just to go to the corner store for a pack of gum. But the way a woman dresses and/or presents herself does have a lot to do with being hot (men too – so keep your game up too).
I believe that it is always great to have confidence...as long as you’re not a snob about it. But what is hot to some isn’t always hot to others...but then again; what defines “hot”? And who defines it? We all have different tastes and different styles. Our likes and dislikes vary from day to day let alone person to person. So what’s hot and what’s not? Is this answered based on an overall consensus or personal opinion? I think it’s maybe a combination of both. And if you’re in a relationship, does your significant other’s perception of what’s hot matter? Now, Ladies, we may think we’re hot but does our definition of hot fit our man’s definition? Do we care? Yeah we do although a bunch is going to say they don’t. We flaunt our “hotness” for a reason and we care about what our men or potential men think. Which is why I picked the brains of a few good men ranging from ages of mid-twenties to early forties and varying marital statuses (single, dating, married) and different races as well... to ask them what’s hot & what’s not. I asked them the same four questions:
• Question #1: What is the definition of "Hot" in reference to a woman?
• Question #2: Do you think the definition varies from man to man or does it translate universally?
• Question #3: In your personal opinion, what makes a woman "hot"?
• Question #4: What are 4 things about a woman that isn't hot (i.e. too much make-up, bad attitude, etc)
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Jim, Boston
The definition of hot. I think it's how a woman looks, dresses, and how she acts. The combination of all three.
I don't think the definition varies, but I think what preference a man likes within those three categories varies.
I think for me the hottest women are the ones that are the most confident and comfortable with themselves. A comfortable and confident woman maximizes her attractiveness. She presents herself well to the world, dresses well, looks good, and people want to know her.
I think that the biggest turn off, something that I don't think is hot is when a woman dresses "slutty". Sexy is one thing, but don't dress like a tramp. Also, on the other hand, when a girl puts Zero effort into dressing nice ... pajama pants, and a hooded sweatshirt ... also not hot. Confidence is one thing, but being a snob is something else, acting like you are better than everyone else is not hot. I think the last thing is trying too hard with your appearance. Too much makeup, too big of a hair, and too much tanning/self-tanner is not hot.
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Maurice, Dorchester
I feel that a woman's "Hot"-ness represents her level of sexiness. Every woman has a certain thing about them that makes them sexy, from their eyes, to their lips, their smile, to the way they wear their hair, how they wear a dress, et cetera et cetera. If they don't bring out their sexy, then they are not so "Hot!" If they do, they are "Hot" or even "Red Hot!"
The definition could vary from man to man. For instance, I find a woman "Hot" if she's intelligent, has a pretty smile, good personality, and wears nice clothes and looks good in them. Another man on the other hand could find a woman "Hot" if she has a big butt, nice sized breasts, and is thin like most models. Now don't get me wrong, I do like the physical qualities of a woman, but it's not ALL that makes a woman "Hot!"
As I mentioned in the previous answer, I find a woman "Hot" if she's intelligent, has a pretty smile, good personality, and wears nice clothes and looks good in them. If she has all four of these things, she's "Hot!"
1) a woman that smells BAD
2) one that's unintelligent and unable to hold a descent conversation
3) a woman that no matter how big or small she is doesn't keep up with her appearance (i.e wears tight clothing that don't fit well for a big woman, or a woman that's small in size dressed in a style that resembles that of a street-hooker or stripper)
4) a woman that's rude or snobbish
*If even one of these characteristics makes up a woman, she's not HOT at all!
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Kevin, Brooklyn
In my opinion. This is what makes a woman hot: Her look, the way she's dresses and carries herself. Her attitude (the wrong attitude can damn near make her ugly). Of course her brain. Now what I mean by that is, I’m a sucker for good convo,so if you look good, have the right attitude and can talk to me & not just about what Beyonce did yesterday I mean a real convo. Then you’re smokin in my book lol
Yes this definition varies from man to man. What’s hot to me is not hot to my son or neps. My man may like a slim size 4; where as my other man may worship a size 16. Sum men may not want a smart independent woman & so on & so on.
What’s NOT hot?
1) smoking
2) attitude, attitude.
3) poor communication
4) bad personal hygiene
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Anonymous, Detroit
A woman is hot if she knows how to carry herself with the mindset of there is a time and a place for everything. Being a lady should always be first on the agenda (speaking with intelligence, being articulate, etc). A woman who is hot knows how to dress appropriately, she knows how to speak her mind and knows how to get a point across, and she can handle her business. Like Ludacris said...a woman in the streets but a freak in the bed.
I think all men want a woman that is secure in her womanhood. That’s hot. But to what degree may vary. Some men don’t like a loud, outgoing woman and then some do. But we can all agree that a woman who knows who she is and is uncompromising of what she stands for is hot. She should be confident but humble.
A negative attitude isn’t hot. A woman who doesn’t keep up her appearance (wears raggedy clothes, flips flops everywhere, hair a mess, chewed up nails, etc).. A woman that uses her looks to get things isn’t hot. And a woman who isn’t or acts like she isn’t smart isn’t hot either.
I gather from these 4 men that presentation, good hygiene & intelligence are high on the “HOT” list. I mean true you can look fine as hell but if you sound like an idiot when you speak, it can be a turn off. I’m a bit annoyed that hygiene is mentioned. Isn’t hygiene a given? Brush your teeth, wash your booty, wear deodorant, put on clean clothes…right? Obviously if it’s being mentioned, there are grown folks walking around out there with garlic breath and onion arm pits not afraid to let the funk hit the fan (like an old batch of collard greens *Snoop).
While I think their answers were a bit safe, I love the information that was shared. As men get older, I feel that a sexy body and good looks get traded for a well versed, intelligent woman who knows how to carry herself and takes pride in how she looks and acts. They are describing women they’d want to be in a relationship with or are in relationships with. While I hear dudes comment on women that walk by in scantily clad outfits, looking like whoa say “Damn, she’s hot”.... Videos come on TV (in between reality TV & Maury) where the vixens are casted based on what men perceive as hot. ..And I’m not saying all men like that kind of thing.....I feel men are evolving and maturing and we need to give them more credit. Ok that all sounds good...but Ladies, your turn is coming soon. So you think about it – What makes a man hot? And let’s see if your answers measure up.
